December 2010
47 posts
DETAILS for Corey, and the rest of you too!
Hotel Horizons is the hotel we are staying at the next couple weeks.
It is in the center of Trivandrum, the capital of Kerala.
There is a temple next door, and a fruit bat sleeps all day on a telephone wire out back!
Fun things on the flight:
1) Indian food on plane=awesome!
2) Camera on plane showing live feed as we landed-also awesome
3) Etihad has fancy flight attendant uniforms. Also, fancy snacks.
The basics of India:
4) ITS SO HOT/HUMID I thought I was in Iowa in late July. Southern Iowa :P
5) Water is preccccioussss…..
6) there’s people and traffic everywhere and everyone honks a lot so you know when you’re in danger of getting run over
7) you mostly eat with your hands so far
aaand now we have to run to our first class, more later!
Your most recent post, the one about being UU and atheist and dating a Catholic... That's so weird that you just posted that, because I literally was just thinking about that kind of thing -- except, in reverse order. I dated someone who was an atheist and my family is really conservative Christian.. and .. I've found that if I date someone and become seriously involved with them, my beliefs system gets altered by way of their beliefs. I obviously have weak faith to begin with ... Or ... I just never knew what to believe truly, for myself.
I think that's the problem these days .. families raise kids to believe in one God, one church, one explanation for everything. Then, when they get old enough to form their own opinions, they don't actually "beleve" it .. they just accept it because it's all they've known. And then, when someone gave me the opportunity to think of it on my own, I came to the conclusion that I have no idea what I beleive. And it's been hard for me to admit that to myself for the past year. It's been even harder to sometimes think about the possibilty that I beleive in .. nothing ... (see? I can't even admit it fully in this message!).
And I'm sorry for clogging your Ask up with this crazy long thing. But I just found it odd that I was thinking of something very similar (religion and dating and differing beliefs) and I thought I'd say that I enjoyed reading it and that it impacted me. :)
I’m glad you got something out of reading it, I got something out of sharing it with you all :) Actually you just reminded me of another scenario, when I was dating a different “raised Catholic” guy, who was a few years older than me. I was explaining my beliefs to him, and he kept replying with, “that’s what I thought when I was your age”, and eventually responded by telling me that as things happen in my life, I might decide to believe in God, or something high up and divine, because that’s what had happened to him. But there’s a big difference between being raised with God and leaving God behind at some point, and being raised without God at all.
It wouldn't be awkward.
hahaha...i don't know what to say other than that.
:D indeed I don’t really know what to tell you anyway, I don’t know what’s going on with you guys that’s making you feel this way, and I know that you relate to him totally differently than I did, but I do feel like, actually, even when he and I were dating, I felt like you two were a better match, so yeah, hopefully that’s true. I also wonder if he’s changed a lot or not since moving back home? idk. I just remember posting something very similar about wondering if I was asking too much. If he were your average dude, I’d say no, but I think because of things that have happened to him, and just how he is in my experience, that he might have a hard time thinking outside of his own issues to reach out to you as much as you would like. But I would keep trying. It pretty much is like taming fire.
Day 12 - Bullet your day
- Woke up, added bows to gifts, set up mini-tree
- Corey, Alicia, Brandon, and Schupick came over for our gift exchange
- I made shirley temples and spilled one
- We opened gifts and there was paper EVERYWHERE
- Then we went to Bjennings, played some Guitar Hero, went to the mall
- I went home, packed for India
- We went to the Montrone’s for dinner, played ping-pong like crazy and Apples to Apples
- Came home, more packing
- now Tumbling :)
Day 11: music shuffle
Actually, this was not my ZUNE but my sing-along playlist on windows media player, which is incomplete and only contains artists A-M.
1) Super Massive Black Hole-Muse
2) No Rain-Blind Melon
3) Come Together-The Beatles
4) Out of Control-Hoobastank
5) Anna-Molly-Incubus
6) Jerk it Out-The Ceasars
7) Jack and Diane-John Mellencamp
8) From Me to You-The Beatles
9) Welcome to Paradise-Green Day
10) The Bad Touch-Bloodhound Gang
Day 10: First love/kiss, discuss
Well.
Andrew Derby.
First boyfriend.
I was 15, he was 18.
We dated a year and a half.
I remember the moment I first told him “Te amo” and what it meant,
but I don’t remember when we switched to English.
I don’t remember what loving him felt like though.
Our first kiss was after school when we were wandering around the upstairs hall and everyone else had left, it was just a quick peck, and we had stopped by the window.
I guess that’s all really.
That was… about 7 years ago.
tag on to rant
When someone proposes to me,
before answering I will have to ask,
Can we have a secular wedding?
Christian Privilege rantings
Just so everyone knows,
I’m Unitarian Universalist, which means I can choose my own belief system,
and I have chosen atheist agnostism, a tad of pagan and Native American animism, some heavy influences from Buddha, and love :)
I’m dating a first generation Korean-American whose family is Catholic.
And I like to joke to people that adapting to Korean culture is gonna be fine,
it’s the Catholicism I can’t handle.
Which is funny because for most people
it’d be easier to adapt a religion than a race.
But I didn’t choose to be white,
so I’m all for trying other cultures.
I did however, choose to be all the things I am spiritually,
none of which are Catholic.
And in our relationship it doesn’t seem to make a difference, I just wonder about his family, because he makes his parents sound pretty conservative.
But anyway, what’s frustrating is that I’m trying to explain this,
and some people don’t get it, they don’t what the big deal is, they say
“why is Catholicism hard to adapt to it’s not that that different.”
not that different from what?
Christianity.
News flash that’s not me.
It’s hella different to me,
and I have the luxury of having to consider this when I date people:
What do they believe?
What is their reality vs my reality?
When/how do I bring up that I’m UU and atheist (cuz it seems god is what people care about, not my morals)
What do I say/not say around them or their family?
And even when things aren’t serious, I think about:
What would our wedding have to be like?
How much will I have to compromise?
How would my own extended family handle an unorthodox wedding ceremony?
How would we raise our children?
How do we answer the big questions they ask?
And people don’t get why I wouldn’t want a “normal” Christian wedding,
cuz most people have only seen Christian weddings and that’s all they can think of and they don’t see how that makes me uncomfortable.
It’d be like asking a Jewish person to have a Christian wedding. Just wrong.
2 am and somethings burning
So I’d just dropped off Kyle at home after a long discussion about how to bring up certain things in his relationship,
and I was driving through the middle of town, specifically, approaching the lighted bridge at the intersection of Washington and Central,
and I was like, Oh hey fog I wonder how bad it will be,
but then I realized the fog was pouring in from one direction,
and I see colorful lights,
and I realize that something’s on fire downtown, by the 8th street hill.
Good thing the station was literally 10 blocks away if that.
I really wanna know but I can’t til tomorrow.
Why do things keep burning in Burlington?
